For a long time, all I could do was surrender

Prose, Collaborative writing
2012

Exploring the edge between provocation and exposure with one another through text and action. We have a writing exchange where we each created texts on personal losses (death, rape, gender misidentification), erotic fantasies that involved BDSM, pain play, boy play, and death play, and responses to watching films in the New French Extremity genre (Ma Mere, 29 Palms, The Piano Teacher, etc.). Through the combination of writing and observing these films, we created a system of actions that we describe as performative submission. We sought to dominate one another in the context of performance in order to expose the emotional and erotic truths in one another’s writing. We took turns topping one another in our actions and physically pushed one another into submission in front of the audience. In this sense, the audience played the roles of both voyeur and participant. We perform the complex dynamics between eros and loss that contribute as much to identity formation as affirmative, life-positive belief structures. Within this thinking, there is humiliation, debasement, and fantasy in a performance context where the strength of the performers lies in their ability to relinquish control. We each create a set of constraints to make one another give way and bear witness to our own narrative underbellies, or the subtext of our identities.

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in collaboration with Perel